The Friends and Community Pillar

The Friends and Community Pillar

The ninth pillar of the 10 pillars that I coach my clients on is the friends and community pillar.

friend/frend: A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts, with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause
com·mu·ni·ty/kəˈmyo͞onitē: a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.

Friends are that people that know everything about us and are still around. Most people can count their true friends on just one hand.

Even Oprah Winfrey says, “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” How do you know who your real friends are?

They are the people in your life that have always been there through think and thin. They are the people in your life that you can call in the middle of the night if you really needed it. And they are the people in your life who you can count on and don’t ask for anything in return.

Take inventory

Who and where are your friends right now?

What kind of community do your belong to? What does it do for you?

Consider this

• What do you want and need in a friend?
• What kind of friend are you?
• What do you need to do to attract the kind of friends you want?
• Where do you want to go with your gang of friends?
• What have you done for your friends lately?
• What are you doing to maintain your friendships and sense of community?

Take action

Take 15 minutes to joint down what you appreciate about the people around you. Make a list of your friends and one think about them that you are grateful for. Write out the one quality that you admire in them and then send them a thank you card to at least 3 of your closest friends on the list letting them know what they mean to you. To have great friends we must be great friends.

Tomorrow we go over pillar #10